Experiment

This is a continuation of the post titled "A Generator".

Dear readers, how are you? It is 9:44pm Eastern Time, and I am blogging this from my office. Nah, don't worry, I'm not working late. Rather, I am taking advantage of this wonderful, cozy office space to watch Vishen Lakhiani's webinar! I discovered, to my delight, that he is going to speak in at 10 pm today, and this is indeed the perfect end to a day/something really awesome to look forward to!

Anyway, I digress. I am writing (at least in the process of) to examine the results of my "Generator" experiment. To be more specific, getting through a month or so challenge to respond, instead of initiating. There were tough moments to be really fair, but there were also beautiful moments that happened spontaneously, without the need for me to initiate anything whatsoever. Giving you short of a laundry list: A Coffee Meets Bagel date (this Sunday! Will probably tell you how it goes), being invited to make dumplings and having a lot of fun, playing bridge with a bunch of old friends, lunch with couple different friends, a few hangout sessions with a particular extremely attractive lady that I love, and so on and so forth.

However, I also found that experiences that I initiated could be successful and extremely fun as well, such as the kbbq I had with Grace :) (she's so sweet btw, I'm so grateful to know her). I think what made all the difference is the mindset I have when I enter these events, and being grateful for the positive outcomes. The first few weeks of this experiment I was focusing on the crippling fear of being left alone and having nothing to do and no company, and as such my weekends were actually not the greatest. Funnily, as I started being grateful for amazing dates and wonderful weekend plans, they all started popping up and happening to me, without me even planning anything. For example, out of the blue, Audrey just asked me to get lunch on Saturday! Excited to enjoy dimsum with her!

So is the experiment a success? A failure?

I think I wouldn't hesitate to initiate if need be, in the future, definitely. More importantly, however, whatever activities I initiate or I choose to be part of, I shall remember to enter it with a great mindset, and being grateful for the most magnificent outcome, but at the same time being detached to any particular outcomes and having nothing to lose! Complicated? You bet. But the miraculous outcomes so far has been reached by applying this formula. hehehe. Hey, I guess I love my life. It's pretty darn amazing. :)

R